Only the Holy Spirit can create real fellowship among believers, but He is expanding the choices and commitments we make. The Apostle Paul shows this dual responsibility when he said: “And try to maintain the unity of the Spirit by the bond of peace.”
It takes the power of God and our efforts to produce the Christian community of love. Many people grow up in families with unhealthy relationships, so they lack the skills to relate to one another in their lives.
They must be taught how to get along well and how to relate to others in the family of God. The New Testament is filled with instructions on how to live life together. Paul writes:
“For those who serve well gain a good position so that in faith in Christ Jesus they can testify freely.
I write these things to you, although I hope to visit you soon. So if I’m late, well you know how people should live as God’s family, the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of truth. “(1 Timothy 3:13-14).
Developing a Christian community requires honesty, we must care enough to lovingly speak the truth, even though we may prefer to develop or ignore an issue. Although much easier for us to remain silent when he saw other people sinful habits, our attitude is not a loving act.
Some people do not have anyone in their lives who love them enough so that would tell the truth to them (even though it hurts), because they live in ways that self-destructive. Often times we know what needs to say to someone, but our fears prevent us from saying anything.
The Bible commands us to declare the right thing with a heart full of love because we can not have community without frankness, Solomon said, “The honest answer is the sign of true friendship” Sometimes this means caring enough to be full of love reprimand someone who was sin or being tempted to sin. The Apostle Paul said: “Brethren, even if an offense caught, then you are spiritual, it should lead people to the right path in a spirit of gentleness, keeping yourself so that you also do not get trials(Galatians 6:1).
Many church and small group fellowship remain shallow because they are afraid of conflict. If problems arise that can cause tension or discomfort, with the immediate problem is hidden to maintain a sense of false peace, the issue was never resolved, and all people living with a hidden frustration. Everyone knows about the problem, but no one can talk about it openly, this led to a confidential environment is not healthy where gossip growing rapidly. The Apostle Paul said in Ephesians 4:25 says: “Therefore, putting away falsehood and speak the truth to one another, because we are fellow members.” Guild true, whether in a marriage, friendship, or in our church, depending on the directness or honesty.
Indeed the channel conflict is the path to intimacy in any relationship. Before we care enough to confront and dispel the barriers are hidden, we will never be intimate with each other until the conflict is handled correctly, we will be more familiar with each other to confront and resolve our differences.
Candor or honesty does not mean we are free to say whatever we want, anywhere and anytime we want. Candor is not rudeness. The Bible teaches us that there is the right time and right way to do things. The words uttered do not think that would leave lasting scars. God tells us to speak to one another in the church as a family member full of love. “Thou shalt not hard on older people, but rebuke him as a father. Rebuke young people as brothers, older women as mothers and young women as your sister with purity “(1 Timothy 5:1).